Life throws a lot of curve balls at us, and depression can be one of them.  When the problems we have, loss of a job, loss of a loved one or a broken relationship prove to be too much..depression can set in.  The feelings of worthlessness, blaming ourselves for our problems which leave us with an overwhelming sadness and emptiness.  For some these feelings can be temporary, for others they can become a bigger problem if we let it happen.  If these feelings last more than a couple of weeks, and include the following:

• the feeling of being worthless, without any hope for the future
• having sleeping problems too much or too little.
• problems with eating - losing your appetite or eating more.
• not being able to make simple decisions or difficulty concentrating at work or school
• reduced sex drive,
• not wanting to be around other people
• you seem to have no energy, and always feeling tired
• you have thoughts of ending your life

If you have a friend who has gone through a terrible break up, or a loss in their family encourage them to seek professional help.

For those who have gone through a very bad break up, you need time to heal, to gain your confidence back.  Take it slow, gradually make your way back to meeting new people.  Realize that it is not always you who caused the relationship to fail.  Some people grow apart, but it is important for YOU to find out who you are and what YOU want in life.  Leave the baggage from your previous relationship where it belongs.  In the PAST!  Never compare your new partner with your last…that is why they are called your EX!  Figure out what the qualities that you are looking for in a man or woman.  Make it your number one priority to make that list reasonable.  I hate to say this, but who has ever gone looking for a partner and found that they had everything you were looking for?  And as time goes on, our preferences change as well.

If you are suffering from serious depression as a result of a breakup…give yourself time and talk to your doctor.  Let your friends help you, or family members.

When you are ready to start dating again, and would like to use a dating service make sure you do not use a FREE dating service.  Read my article on “Why Free Online dating can be serious to your health”

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